One of the most powerful assumptions that undermines and limits our potential is the idea that confident people are comfortable when facing adversity under the pressure of the STRETCH ZONE.
The reality is that while confident people might make facing difficult situations look comfortable, when asked they’ll tell you they felt anything but comfortable – it just looks comfortable from the outside.
What confident people have developed is the knack of being comfortable with the discomfort that goes with being in the STRETCH ZONE – I call it comfort-with-discomfort.
So long as we associate confidence with comfort we’ll hold ourselves back, putting our potential ‘on-hold’ as we wait for that feeling of comfort at the threshold of our COMFORT ZONE. The STRETCH ZONE will always feel uncomfortable, that is why it is call the STRETCH ZONE – so embrace the discomfort and step up anyway.
Question: To what extent does the threat of discomfort result in you holding yourself back in the hope that you’ll feel more comfortable next time?