Category Archives: Learning

THE STRETCH ZONE – The Mistake We Make!

Because our confidence so often disappears when we need it most, we frequently come to the conclusion that ‘confidence is something I lack’ – and therefore ‘need to learn and acquire’.

Believing we lack confidence we end up ‘doing’ all that we possibly can to acquire and ‘have’ what we believe we lack – hoping to fill an assumed gap in our personality.

What follows is a whole lot of frenetic ‘doing’ as we do all that we can to psyche ourselves up – and what we end up with is a façade of pseudo-confidence that is neither convincing nor sustainable.

Psyching up a façade of pseudo-confidence wastes effort and energy in a desperate attempt to manufacture what is already within us in limitless measure. Rather than wasting time and opportunities unnecessarily, our efforts and energy are better channelled in creating the conditions within which confidence is inevitable.

Question: When under the pressure of the stretch zone, to what extent and in what way do you tend to psyche yourself up with a façade of pseudo-confidence?

Imposing What we Know on What we Need to Know

In our ordinary, everyday experience learning so often refers to that which we have learnt in the past. What follows is a very stale regurgitation as we superimpose past learning onto the present.

In this limited paradigm learning is an event that begins and ends – and we end up having certain bits of knowledge and skills which we believe we have, own and control – all stored in memory.

Learning is not an event that happens, but an intriguing and continual process of discovery. In truth, real learning goes beyond memory of what worked yesterday to what works now.

While what we’ve learnt is the past is necessary, application of learning is about the integration of what is known in the past and what is known in the present. Until we become intrigued about what is actually happening now the underlying secret of learning remains un-dis-covered.

Question: Today, to what extent is your learning a continual process of what works for you now?